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Thursday, May 1, 2014

behaviors

I am a people-watcher.  I am constantly surveying the crowd, watching body language, seeing facial expressions when people think know one is really looking.  I am looking.  I am often a ring leader in group conversations.  I love talking and I love participating in discussions about ...well just about anything.  But sometimes i just like to listen and to watch.  I am in two book clubs and i love watching people react to what others are saying.  Sometime people really connect through differing points and other times you know exactly who thinks who is full of hot air.  At school I like to observe the kids and see their different behaviors.  So many of the kids are really good kids.  They laugh and cut up and may even get a little rowdy but basically they are pretty good kids.  But there are some....well some of them are just in need of an old fashioned spanking.  I mean it.  On any given day I see children who are just screaming through their behavior that they need some discipline.  A good old spanking is what should be in store for them when they get home....and at school.  I am all for corporate punishment in the right realm.  People love to say that it needs to not be in schools but those are the very people who never step in a school.  The students are just allowed to run wild.  I see them being so disrespectful, breaking all the rules...if there are any rules and just being downright ugly. The kids are wise to the way things are run nowadays.  And they are loving it.  But what are we raising??  Disrespectful, ungrateful, whiny, instantly gratified, spoiled children.  In our current school system we are to use "Positive Reinforcement" as a behavior modification rule.  that may sound all fabulous but what it does is constantly reward bad behavior.  Instead of stopping children from the basic school no-nos' that include;  no running inside, quiet inside voices, no gum chewing, no shoving etc...  they are rewarded for picking up trash that they threw across the room, for not screaming too loud they were not first in line.  The list could go on and on.  Didn't do your homework???  Well that's five minutes of silent lunch.  Didn't do your classwork??  well you can walk a lap at P.E.  Calling other classmates names??  Well, try not to do that...ok?  We are raising children with no consequences for any of their actions.  There is no accountability whatsoever.  Do you know whose fault this is??  Not the kids....their parents.  We have dropped the ball when it comes to raising our children.  We give them what they want...immediately.  They cry, pitch a fit or whatever, mommy caves.  I see Mamas and daddies with their faces in their phones all the time and their kids are scrambling for their attention.  They will do anything for it.  Anything.  I see so many parents, mams and daddies, so wrapped up in the boy/girl friend of the week that their child doesn't even know where he is going to sleep for the weekend.  To make our kids behavior straighten up maybe it is us parents who need the spanking?  But a good old-fashioned switch would go a long way with the kids these days.  I don't advocate abuse at all.  Those people belong in prison as far as I am concerned.  But real discipline would solve so many issues.  God corrects His children sternly but with love.  He loves us too much to allow us to thrive in our sins.  Correction comes with a steep price.  If we refuse to obey God will leave us to our own devices and we know how that ends.  With the child of God in a deep miry pit.  We, in turn, are leaving our own children in the pit of disobedience and rebellion.  They are so young that this just may become their normal way of life and they will never know the true joy of living in obedience and the freedoms that brings.

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